One day it will all make sense
Whenever you find yourself blaming providence, turn it around in your mind and you will see that what has happened is in keeping with reason. EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES, 3.17.1 섭리를 원망하는 자신을 발견할 때 마다 마음속으로 그것을 반대로 돌려보면 발생한 일이 이치에 맞는다는 것을 알게 될 것입니다.
Seeing things as the person at fault does
Whenever someone has done wrong by you, immediately consider what notion of good or evil they had in doing it. For when you see that, you'll feel compassion, instead of astonishment or rage. For you may yourself have the same notions of good and evil, or similar ones, in which case you'll make as allowance for what they've done. But if you no longer hold the same notions, you'll be more readily ..
Living without restriction
The unrestricted person, who has in hand what they will in all events, is free. But anyone who can be restricted. coerced, or pushed into something against what they will is a slave. EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES, 4.1.128b-129a 제약이 업는 사람, 즉 모든 상황에서 자기가 원하는 것을 가진 사람은 자유로운 사람이다. 하지만 속박받거나 강요당하거나 또는 자신의 의지에 반하는 일을 강요당하는 경우 그 사람은 노예이다. 성공한 많은 사람들이 자기가 이루어 놓은 곳에 갇혀 있는 경우가 많습니다. 이것이 진정 그들이 원했던 삶인지, 생각해 보아야 합니다.
Find yourself a cato
We can remove most sins if we have a witness standing by as we are about to go wrong. The soul should have someone it can respect, by whose example it can make its inner sanctum more inviolable. Happy is the person who can improve others, not only when present, but even when in their thoughts. SENECA, MORAL LETTERS, 11.9 *Cato : 로마 시대의 유명한 철학자이자 군인. 절제된 삶과 도덕적인 행동으로 유명했다. 여기에서는 도덕적인 조언을 주는 지혜로운 ..
Find the right scene
Above all, keep a close watch on this - that you are never so tied to your former acquaintances and friends that you are pulled down to their level. If you don't, you'll be ruined... You must choose whether to be loved by these friends and remain the same person, or to become a better person at the cost of those friends.. if you try to have it both ways you will neither make progress nor keep wh..
Don't unintentionally hand over your freedom.
If a person gave away your body to some passerby, you'd be furious. Yet you hand over your mind to anyone who comes along, so they may abuse you, leaving it disturbed and troubled - have you no shame in that? EPITETUS, ENCHIRIDION, 28 만약 누군가 당신의 시신을 그냥 지나가는 이에게 넘겨주었다면, 분노할 것입니다. 그러나 당신은 어떤 사람에게나 당신의 마음을 맡기고, 그들이 학대할 수 있게 하고, 그로 인해 혼란스럽고 괴로워지도록 합니다. 당신은 그에 대해 부끄러움을 느끼지 않나요?
Don't tell yourself stories
In public avoid talking often and excessively about your accomplishments and dangers, for however much you enjoy recounting your dangers, it's not so pleasant for others to hear about your affairs. - EPICTETUS, ENCHIRIDION, 33.14 공공장소에서는 너의 업적과 위험에 대해 자주 얘기하지 말아야 합니다. 너의 위험했던 일들을 되새기는 것이 즐거워도, 다른 사람들에게는 그다지 즐거운 일이 아닐 수 있습니다.
Cutting back on the costly
"So, concerning the things we pursue, and for which we vigorously exert ourselves, we owe this consideration. either there is northing useful in them, or most aren't useful. Some of them are superfluous, while others aren't worth that much. But we don't discern this and see them as free, when they cost us dearly." Seneca, Moral Letters 42.6 "우리가 추구하고 힘껏 노력하는 일에 대해서 생각해 보아야 합니다. 그것들 중에 유용한 것은 없거나..